Technically they do work without any kind of harness

15 best sex toys in 2025 for a great orgasm, tested by us

We mentioned the Godemiche Ambit above in the best small dildos section, but we felt they deserved separate recognition for the amazing and beautiful colored dildos in their collection. The nJoy Pure Wand is one of the more legendary dildos on this list. You should combine with some kind of supporting underwear or harness for best results, but the Tango still works well enough even if you choose to go the fully strapless route. We like this kind of dildo not because of their strapless qualities, but because they’re double ended and provide some good stimulation for the wearer and the receiver.

To begin using a dildo, choose a comfortable size, shape, and material. Add lubrication to both the dildo and the area you wish to penetrate. Start slowly, paying attention to your level of comfort as you insert the dildo. Experiment with different angles and depths to find the most pleasurable sensations. These toys are made for people with a lacquer, leather or latex fetish who like to feel stimulation all day long.

While they can be used for external stimulation and some do include a vibration feature, their penis-style shape means that they are perfect for internal fun. With a vibrator Vibrating Dildo, you can find a whole host of designs , like the bullet or discreet pen, but each gives a buzzing sensation that is ideal for external arousal. Vibration or no vibration, all sex toys are equally exciting, so it’s all about preference when you buy dildos.

In general, soft and squishy silicone is going to use the Shore 00 scale, while firmer dildos will use the Shore A scale. We generally find supersoft to be more realistic than the firmer variants, but a lot of this will come down to personal preference for how much give you like in your dildo. The next thing to consider is whether you’re looking for a phallic, realistic dildo (realistic color, texture, and overall appearance) or something a bit more abstract and nonphallic.

Assuming you find something that has a safely flared base or a looped handle, the only other thing you need to worry about is sanitation. Even condoms might not do the trick, so you’ll want to stick to nonporous items that can be safely sterilized with bleach or by boiling. In fact, you’re better off only using that item for pleasure after you stick it in the anal cavity!

Wet For Her’s Union double-ender is another great choice for fully non-realistic strapless strapon, complete with the clitoral stimulation textures and bullet vibe compatibility as well. If you’re looking for a double-ended dildo that’s pleasurable for both parties, the Fuze Tango has everything you could possibly want. Technically they do work without any kind of harness, but they require Olmpyian-level pelvic girdle strength to hold in place for any serious in-and-out thrusting. For best results you’ll want to use an open-backed harness or brief-style panties to support the weight of the toy. That’s why we’re recommending the FunFactory Big Boss G5, which is really a vibrator first and dildo second.